These reveries replaced heterosexuality with every other possibility: lesbian/gay/ bisexual liaisons, sex with transgender individuals, or becoming transgender. Flexibility, homoeroticism, gender-bending.More than half of study participants reported these fantasies. Passion/romance fantasies tended to be tied to particular individuals, though often not the fantasizer’s regular partner, but former, distant, or deceased partners. Most sexual fantasies involve unrestrained sexual exuberance, but these focus on loving and feeling loved. More than two-thirds of Lehmiller’s participants reported such fantasies at least occasionally. These fantasies involve consensual non-monogamy: mate swapping, watching one’s partner with someone else, and polyamory, emotional as well as sexual relationships with more than one partner. And almost half (42 percent) enjoyed reveries of exhibitionism, putting on a sexual show, for example, in cars with people watching. Almost half of Lehmiller’s sample (45 percent) reported fetish fantasies, the sexualizing of nonsexual things, notably feet and women’s underwear. Voyeurism, watching people have sex without their knowledge, was the most prevalent, reported by 60 percent of study participants. These fantasies involved voyeurism, exhibitionism, fetishes, and incest. The following four fantasies were somewhat less popular but still quite prevalent: And more than half of study participants fantasized about sex in unconventional settings: in public, particularly on beaches and at work, in bars, elevators, hot tubs, parks, and forests. More than one-third of men fantasized insertive anal intercourse, with 20 percent of both men and women reporting fantasies of receptive anal. Sixty percent said they dreamed of giving or receiving fellatio or cunnilingus. Top sexual novelty fantasies involved oral and anal play, particularly among those who rarely or never experienced them in real life. Fantasies of being forced into sex were also very popular-reported by almost two-thirds of the women and half the men. More than half of Lehmiller’s sample fantasized about receiving or administering intense sensation, the BDSM term for consensual pain, with most preferring to receive it. More people fantasized about submission than domination. Half fantasized about discipline, i.e, erotic domination or submission (D/s), with 20 percent saying they had D/s fantasies often. One-third reported frequent bondage fantasies. More than three-quarters reported bondage fantasies-being tied up or restraining another. Almost everyone in Lehmiller’s survey reported BDSM daydreams-96 percent of the women, 93 percent of the men. No wonder the BDSM romance trilogy, Fifty Shades of Grey, has become the most popular fiction of all time. Bondage, discipline, and sado-masochism (BDSM).Many people fantasized of many men and women playing together (swinging, orgies), while others focused on one person having sex with many others (gangbangs). The top multi-partner fantasy involved threesomes, with moresomes not far behind. Almost everyone reported having it-87 percent of the women, 95 percent of the men. Lehmiller discovered that Americans’ top erotic reveries fall into seven broad categories-three very popular, and four less so but still quite prevalent.
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